Can you state at this time, and with no conditions or uncertainty, you’re worthy to get whatever you may expect for or dream about? Do you think you deserve to acquire everything you need, as to the goals and dreams you’ve established for your life and your career? If something good were to happen right now in your life, or on your career, would you really and truly be happy for yourself, and willingly accept it?
Many people would probably answer yes to those questions, as who would state no when asked if they are deserving of the best in life? But the reality is much different, when you consider the mindset, attitude, and mood most people have about themselves, along with the organic response they encounter when they set goals, dreams, or a plan for changes in their lives. This also happens when good things start to happen and there’s a natural sense of self-sabotage or a negative reactive current which begins to set in.
I believe at some level we all struggle, or have struggled at some stage in our lives, with accepting our natural ability to obtain the good in life. There is a mantra about having to work hard in order to get what you want, and anyone who just inherits well-being was born with a “silver spoon in their mouth”, which of course is a very negative connotation. So many people want to achieve more during their lifetime, yet there’s so much negativity surrounding the matter of actually accomplishing greater things or getting more in life.
By comparison, another subject of self-development is over-emphasizing abundance, to the stage it’s taken one Law of the Universe and turned it into a magic, get rich formula. I’m referring to the Law of Attraction, which is but one of several Laws of the Universe, rather than supposed to be the sole guide for anyone’s life. It’s a law about the condition of someone’s mind, and is not the answer to every question someone might have regarding their life, relationship, career, or anything else for that matter. Yet there are countless books and teachers who have built entire teaching philosophies about it, and when it doesn’t work for many people, this only reinforces the concept of a lack of self-worth.
This is also what happens when lots of people finally attain the results they hoped for, such as a new job, new relationship, new career, promotion, improved health, or anything else which had seemed to be something which had just been a dream. The patterns of reactive dislike and disbelief may set in, along with questions associated with worthiness. For instance, a person may question whether or not they have worked hard enough to deserve a new job, or they might ask if they deserve a new relationship. This might be followed by a vital self-analysis, and list of all of the negative qualities which appear to demonstrate this new outcome or result or change was not deserved.
I have also struggled with self-worth. My reactive pattern, which demonstrated my lack of feeling a sense of inner worthiness, occurred whenever I would dream of becoming or doing or achieving something different. I would all of a sudden get angry about something entirely different or unrelated to whatever it was I was dreaming or thinking about. What I have learned is that the external signs of being upset were a sign of the internal turmoil within me. How can I dream when I had obligations and other responsibilities which might seem to hold me back?
What this signifies is I was not able to accept I could have a dream and move past my existing reality, which also was a sign I didn’t think in my own self-worth. Once again, these were reactive patterns born from a lifetime of struggle, and always trying to do what was considered to be responsible, rather than live empowered to follow a dream. This doesn’t mean it was the wrong way to live, only one that was less fulfilled.
Maybe this meant it took me longer in life to be a teacher because of this, yet I think now each these classes were part of what I needed to learn to currently be a teacher. Now I can understand what it means to feel uncertainty and the reactive, engrained psychological patterns. This is something I have learned and will help teach others now, about self-worth and self-love. This is also the subject I wanted to learn more about as I was connected to the Collective Consciousness of humankind and Universal Wisdom. I will share with you today what I learned about the energy of self-worth.
A universal truth is this: Every human being has a set of beliefs which are developed as a product of time and experience, yet the most influential formation time occurs early on in life. It is during the formative years when others have the ability to maintain their influence on an impressionable mind, and this influence can last far into adulthood – even if the person creating or exerting the effect is no longer about or cared about.
Understanding the Nature of Beliefs
While beliefs can be changed, a person tends to form them early in life and then seek confirmation of those beliefs through life events. There are milestones in a person’s life which can create new beliefs, and are generally caused by the aging or life process, such as gaining experience and wisdom, and/or seeking out new knowledge and being intentional in a desire to learn and change.
The beliefs which are hardest to change are those that are private in nature, those deeply connected to a person’s emotions and state of mind. In contrast, beliefs about the world, faith, politics, or other matters can eventually change through the acquisition of knowledge, wisdom, enlightenment, and through discourse.
But beliefs that are deeply personal and psychological aren’t so easily changed. Those beliefs typically involve how someone thinks they look, how they believe they’re fitting in with the world and their environment, how they are measuring up with others, how they feel about themselves, and how they view their overall value.
These beliefs are deeply held and engrained at an emotional, vibrational, and energetic level, held at a chronic pattern and sustained. These are long-term energetic emotional reactions and responses which become so deeply held, a individual soon forgets they exist since they simply react in the identical way time after time.
By way of instance, if someone has grown up believing they do not fit into society, this becomes a permanent, negative energy cycle that’s so practiced they soon forget it’s a belief. This individual simply operates in life knowing they don’t fit in, and any time they’re put into a situation which might require them to try and fit in, they automatically respond in fear or reject the very idea of trying.
If this mindset was practiced long enough, it becomes a means of life until challenged. However, to challenge a belief in this way would require something to happen which would force a person to eventually reflect and uncover why they respond to situations in the manner they do now.
Understanding a Lack of Self-Worth
This is one of the most self-defeating, negative emotions and self-beliefs a person can hold, simply because it generates negative automatic responses.
There are numerous reasons why a deficiency of self-worth can begin at an early stage in a person’s life. The easiest answer would be to attribute one or both parents, and this overlooks the knowledge available about each person currently having chosen their own life. The struggles which are part of life are similar to the steps required to create a diamond. The more abrasive the procedure, the greater the outcome may be in the long term. This does depend upon the purpose a person chooses for injecting challenges in their lives.
However, problems and issues occurring early in life can weaken the natural built-in sense of value available to each and every human being. Feeling naturally worthy doesn’t come easy for many people, not till they start a journey of personal and spiritual transformation.
Understanding the Emotion of Worthiness
The emotion of value is really about love. To feel too little self-worth is to feel a lack of self-love.
You will find clues about how someone feels right now, regarding their belief about being naturally worthy. For example, a compliment, present, prize, new fantasy coming true, or anything coming to fruition. How does the person respond?
If there is true happiness experienced or felt, the person believes they are worthy and deserving of what they’re about to receive. In contrast, if there are questions, jealousy, concern, or any sort of resistance which manifests itself through frustration, anger, depression, or any negative feelings – this person might not believe in their normal worthiness and the indications point towards internal turmoil. This also means they have not fully learned the art of self-love.
To appreciate yourself wholly is to understand you’re here because you planned it, and you worked out the details beforehand. While you might have experienced challenges early on in life, and do so much now, it never reduces your worthiness to get the best or whatever you dream of or hope for or desire.
Understand How to Love Yourself
The self-worth you hold is a product of this self-love you cultivate, and it radiates from within. You never need worry about asking for too much from life, as you’re always worthy to have dreams – and through these dreams you may discover your life’s plan and purpose.
To embrace self-love is to eventually accept life as it occurs daily, great or otherwise, with a practiced positive emotion of self-love, not a negative emotion of self-doubt.
If you have struggled with questions of uncertainty, and you’re not certain if you have ever truly loved yourself, now’s the time to come up with a new belief system, to create a new life.
You don’t need a list of affirmations, or training for a new, positive mindset. Only a simple reminder to help you get started: “I planned my life.”
This knowledge will start to open many psychological doors for you, such as love for yourself.
The following reminder is this: “I have access to the Collective Consciousness of humanity at all times.”
It’s not tied to anyone and needs no one else to be involved. You’re also not asking anyone to gain access for you, and you are not asking approval from anyone. This is for you and you alone.
The previous reminder is that: “The wisdom and insight I need for my life is available to me and it can be discovered through my mind”
With these reminders, you can now establish a practiced, positive emotion towards your own life of self-worth and self-love. Now you are no longer having to question whether you deserve something special in your life as you are living your own life and connected to the origin of life, the energy of life itself.